Unhelpful Husbands-to-Be

Kat

Costa Sister Productions

May 9, 2016

Dear Kat, I’d love some advice on how to get my fiancé more involved in the wedding planning without being accused of harassing him or being a bridezilla!? Essentially, I want to know how we can make it fun for both of us and not appear to be a chore. I’m happy doing most of the organising, but when it comes to the stuff I can’t really do (such as his suit) or things I need his input on (the guest list, the music, the food) he just rolls his eyes, huffs and gets annoyed! Help!

The Pre-Wedding Freak Out

Kat

Jonathan David Studios

October 9, 2015

Do I Need Bridesmaids?

Kat

Erin & Ray

March 31, 2015

Hey Kat! I'm getting married in September and have been stressing over The Bridesmaid Situation for a while now. So my question is, what's the Rock n Roll version of a bridesmaid and what does she do? As much as I love channelling Blair Waldorf it just seems a bit minion-y, like an on-display clique, since I don't have an obvious set of BFFs and hate to "draw the line". Help!

I Hate The Way I Look in My Wedding Photos

Kat

Janneke Storm

January 19, 2015

I receive emails from women worried about their wedding every single day. "Will it be cool enough?" "How do I deal with my meddling mother-in-law?" "Why are my bridesmaids being such arseholes?" But sometimes I get an email like this one, and more than with any of the others, I want to drop everything, find this person in real life and give them a massive hug.

Your Wedding Dilemmas Solved: Post Wedding Blues, Overcoming Shyness, & Much More!

Kat

Emmy Lowe Photo

December 15, 2014

With a brand new year just around the corner, I'd imagine a lot of you are starting to seriously SWEAT IT about your upcoming nuptials. Fret not dear reader, because I'm here to help! I put a call out on Facebook the other day asking if you had any dilemmas you'd like help with and oh boy did you! In fact I received so many questions both on Facebook and via email that I've decided to do a few of these Q&A style posts over the next few weeks. I love doing them and I hope I can help some of you out too!

How To Deal With People Who Want to ‘Pick Your Brain’

Kat

Val and Sarah

October 21, 2014

Dear Kat I understand the irony of my emailing you about this, but I need your help! I'm a wedding photographer and my business is going pretty well. I've been shooting full time for two years now and I'm really proud of how much I've achieved. It's taken a lot of work, but it's been worth it! My problem is, I'm now starting to get a lot of emails or private Facebook messages from friends and strangers asking if they can 'pick my brain'. Sometimes they fire questions at me, but most of the time they're asking if we can meet for coffee or if they can come and see how I work at a wedding! While I'm honoured that people think I'm worthy of asking advice, I can't help but feel annoyed about it. I've worked my BUTT off for the past two years to get to where I am, and these people seem to want me to give them all the answers for free! Don't they realise there's no quick answer and that hard work and time is really what it takes? You must get a lot of this too so I was just wondering if you had any advice on how I should deal with it?

How to Get Started in the Wedding Industry

Kat

Ella Uzan

September 23, 2014

I got an email last week from a reader who wanted advice on how to get started in the wedding industry. "For as long as I can remember, I've wanted to be part of the wedding biz", she wrote, "But where do I begin? I am pretty crafty and I just love all aspects of weddings. I must spend most of my waking hours sifting through your website, Etsy and Pinterest. I've saved thousands of pictures of bouquets, décor of every theme, you name it. I want so desperately to be a part of it, I just don't know where to start."

Life Doesn’t Wait For You To ‘Get Thin’. Life Is Happening Right Now.

Kat

September 11, 2014

Dear Kat So, this cuts pretty close to the bone. I'm off to New York with my husband this Autumn and I was thinking about hiring a photographer for a shoot. I was thinking this earlier in the year, when I was also planning on dropping a couple of stone, and needless to say with a particularly stressful wedding season (I'm a wedding photographer myself) and one thing or another its almost time for the trip and I have not lost a pound.

I Ruined My Friend’s Wedding

Kat

July 29, 2014

Dear Kat, I need your help... advice... anything. I'm an aspiring wedding planner. I'm just out of university and when a friend asked me to help her plan her wedding I was thrilled, honoured and terrified all at the same time. I've always wanted to go into events and even though I've never planned anything as big as a wedding (and I told my friend this) I was super excited to be involved.

Help! I’ve got Pre-Wedding Cold Feet

Kat

Devlin Photos

July 16, 2014

"I've been with my fiancé for nearly 7 years and when we got engaged in October I was over the moon. Now we are planning the wedding and I keep having dreams about running away and going on adventures on my own. We've talked about it and he understands it doesn't mean I don't love him and I've spoken to a lot of people who've told me its very normal but I'm worried about it." Lauren

How Do We Tell People We Don’t Want Their Children at Our Wedding?

Kat

Jill Greenberg

June 25, 2014

Most of our friends now have children. If we invited them all to our wedding there would be nearly 35 kids, we were only planning a guest list of 75 and don't know how to let people know without upsetting them. We know some people will struggle to get sitters but I'm worried it will turn into a screaming child frenzy if we invite them all. Do we do a blanket no children or invite some, the ones we are closest to and risk upsetting people on the day? Added complication is my two nephews will be there who will be 1 and 3 and my flower girl who is 6. Any help/advice appreciated! - Sarah-Jane

How Do I Know What to Charge?

Kat

May 20, 2014

Hi Kat A quick query: how much do you charge for product reviews? I am a virtual vet. I also have a blog, posting every day. This is becoming a larger part of my workload, but I do it for free, which is a challenge. Part of my mix is a weekly product review, which I have done for free up till now. A PR company told me that one of the reasons that they use me is that I am free whereas people like you charge a fee. So hence my question: how much do you charge?

How to Email Like a Pro (or, How to Get a Reply from a Busy Person)

Kat

Amber Gress

May 6, 2014

Dear Kat I'm a new blogger and I'm really struggling with getting my name out there... well, it's not even that really, I'm struggling to get any kind of response from people. You see, I've emailed a bunch of people in the industry that I admire, sometimes to ask for a little advice, but mostly to just introduce myself and say hello... but no one is replying to me. I'm starting to feel invisible! It's so difficult to get a new blog or business off the ground as it is and I already feel like giving up. What am I doing wrong?

How Do I Monetise My Non-Consumer Driven Blog?

Kat

Laura Power

April 1, 2014

Hi Kat, I'm a blogger and I have a conundrum. I hope you can help. Lately I've been finding that when I write about anything life-advice related I get a huge response, and people really enjoy the discussion topics. In comparison if I post about something more trivial, like interiors, fashion or beauty it seems a bit like filler content to me. They get a bit of a response, but nothing compared to the meatier stuff.

Navigating Online Cliques

Kat

January 31, 2014

Dear Kat I'm a new blogger (hoping to launch my site soon) and I'm really struggling with getting my name out there... well, it's not even that really, I'm struggling to get any kind of response from people. You see, I've emailed a bunch of people in the industry that I admire, sometimes to ask for a little advice, but mostly to just introduce myself and say hello... but no one is replying to me. I'm starting to feel invisible! It's so difficult to get a new blog or business off the ground as it is and I already feel like giving up. I feel like there are all these different cliques of people and I don't fit in anywhere. I feel like everyone else is already in the club and I'm standing on the outside on my own. It just seems like they don’t want anyone else to join. What am I doing wrong?

How Often Should I Be Blogging?

Kat

Eliza Claire

November 12, 2013

Well firstly, congratulations. It's going to be a super exciting time for you. If you want to keep blogging you're going to need to have a plan because I imagine you're going to have your hands full! A blog is like a baby in itself. It needs regular love and attention or it won't continue to grow. So, yes, if you want to keep the blog going in some capacity, you need to be posting regularly. The most important thing is to find schedule that works for you.

Why Isn’t My Business a Success?

Kat

Alexa Loy

September 24, 2013

Dear Kat I love the Green Room and your no-nonsense advice. I've read every post you've ever written and tried to implement your advice into my wedding photography business but it feels like nothing is happening. I don't get many enquiries even though I think my work is OK. I'm struggling to see what it is that I'm doing wrong and why everyone else I look at seems to be doing so well. I'm feeling lost and discouraged. I'm not really sure what I want you to say and I'm half expecting you to just delete this email anyway, but I guess I'm just hoping you might send me some words of encouragement...

Help! I’ve Fallen Out of Love with my Blog

Kat

Chellise Michael

August 6, 2013

Dear Kat, I have a massive dilemma and I really hope you can help. I've been blogging about a certain topic for the past few years and I've really loved it. I've made some great connections within the industry, built up a decent readership and I'm really proud of what I've achieved. But I have a problem... I feel like I've kinda fallen out of love with it - not of blogging, but with the topic I'm writing about.

When All You Want To Do Is Quit…

Kat

Vladimir Martí

July 16, 2013

How do you deal with those moments/ days/ weeks when all you want to do is give up? In the past month, so much stuff has happened that it's been incredibly stressful and at times totally overwhelming. Some of it has been to do with my business. I won't go into details but it's had to involve lawyers. I'm actually really loving what I'm learning about the law, but the emotional side of things, and having to construct my own case, has been pretty stressful.

Ask Me Anything…#3

Kat

Made U Look

July 2, 2013

I hope you enjoyed last week's Ask Me Anything post. It was a biggie but this one is just as beastly I'm afraid! I truly appreciate you all sending in all these questions and I hope my answers have been useful so far. Onwards...